There are now more penis enlargement therapy ads in the internet space than malaria therapy ads! all promising instant double pump up in length and girth from the average penile flaccid size of 3-3.5inches and erect size of 5- 5.5inches, in order to satisfy sexual partners. However, Doctors of penis (excuse the pun), Urology and sexology experts have unanimously asserted that sex’s excitement and satisfaction depend not on the penis size.
Size No Matter
No, penis size doesn’t matter in sex. What matters is experience and skills to effectively use your schlong to give your partner the anticipated sexual ecstasy, (We shall come to this later), irrespective of the size. That’s not to say some women do not prefer bigger or smaller one, but that’s just a matter of perceived preference. It’s like some men preferring bigger or smaller boobs. Your phallus might be like the proverbial stallion dick, if it lacks power to stay long enough, it is completely useless. May be not completely, at least you can still use it to pass urine.
Jaja Requa, the promoter of ‘Masturbation Mondays’ women group, quoting The Sex Explorer, in a publication said “Many men feel inadequate when the truth is, they’re not. While porn might have you believe that 9-inch monster cocks are average, the average erect penis length is actually a much more modest 5.16-inches long, while the average girth is a modest 4.59-inches.”
Requa, sharing her conversations with the ‘Masturbation Mondays’ women group, told a story of how a 3–4-inch dick guy surprised the hell out of a one-off sex partner. The story goes thus: It was a one-nightstand kind of deal. She, Cherry, picked up the guy at a bar and they were both wasted. He took her to a fancy hotel. She took her panties off, but when he took his undies down, she saw what looked like a 3-inch dick!
Cherry panicked, she immediately thought sex with him was going to be a waste of time. She had never had sex with a penis that small before and assumed sex with him was going to suck. How the hell is she going to get out of this situation? Sensing what was going on in her mind, the guy looked at her and promised a frolicking time that will worth her time. He promised to give her $500 if he failed to give her orgasm.
The first time Cherry orgasmed, she was in shock. In the doggy-style position, she kept looking back at him in total disbelief. She said that the man did things to her she has never experienced. Using his fingers, he knew what button to touch too.
Big Penis is Good Sex?
Urologist and sexologist say it’s a myth. Big sizes offer no added value than psychological. According to experts, that erogenous area inside the vagina, the G-Spot, is just about 2 inches up the anterior vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and the urethra. The G-Spot, when stimulated may lead to sexual arousal, powerful orgasms, female contraction and ejaculation. So, the challenge is not in reaching the G-Spot, every average penile size will reach it, but in knowing how to stimulate the G-Spot.
Foreplay Mix Matters
Foreplays like kissing, hand massaging, curdling, fingering, smooching, sulking, leaking are more than connections between bodies, they are the perfect ingredients to a perfect diet of orgasmic sex. Foreplay is any sexual activity before the intercourse. As a matter of fact, penetrative sex may even not be on the menu list.
Foreplay triggers physiological and physical responses required in sexual activity. It helps build emotional intimacy that can make partners feel more connected and revive weaning libido. Kissing for example triggers a release of oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin; three chemicals that lower stress hormone level and increase feelings of affection, bonding and euphoria.
Sexology experts say foreplay increases heart rate, pulse, blood pressure, dilation of blood vessels, including genitals (more blood flow to the genitals) which causes the labia, clitoris, penis, breasts and nipples to swell and erect as well as lubricating the vagina.
Bridging the Gap: Foreplay is the short bridge to the long orgasmic gap between two heterosexual partners. For women, it gives them time to ‘warm’ up and get in the mood. It also allows them to reach orgasm more frequently. Medical experts and journals assert that the average healthy male lasts approximately 5 minutes before reaching climax, while the average healthy female takes as much as 17 minutes to reach climax. This is known and called the orgasm gap.
A study of 8000 women by Kontula, Miettinen in 2016 showed that only 6% of women reach orgasm through penile- vaginal intercourse. This study underscores the importance of foreplay in heterosexual orgasm. Foreplay role in orgasm is immeasurable.
Laura Berman, human sexuality and relationship expert said if you skip foreplay, odds are that she is not enjoying sex as much as you. And if you think she is, she’s most likely faking it. According to Berman, female anatomy is far more complicated than male. “She’s not typically ready to get busy on command”.
Pair that with the fact that women are more stimulated by touch than sight, and you have all the understanding you need about why foreplay for women is important”.
Maximizing What You’ve Got
Like we noted earlier, when it comes to sex orgasm, size has got nothing to do with it. Whatever is the size of your male genitalia; big, medium or small is irrelevant to sexual ecstasy for your partner. What’s relevant is your skills and experiences. Sexologists say it’s not the size of your penis that matters as much as what you do with it and the foreplay.
If you’re more endowed, that’s a bigger-than-average dick, you need to make sure your partner is super aroused to make it easier for her to handle your phallus. You need some extra focus on foreplay. Use your mouth, tongue, fingers to tease the erogenous zones – lips, tongues, clitoris, breast, nipples and other erotic points. The idea is to fully whet up the genital’s appetite, to be ready for your big dick. Of course, you must also ensure that lubricant is at hand. Experts say for the well-endowed, having the partner on top is a good way to go. It will avail her the opportunity to take you in at a feel-good pace to her, as well as giving you access to her other parts for maximum arousal.
But if you’re less endowed, if your penis falls to the smaller side of the spectrum, sexologists say you must focus on positions that let you go deep, like doggy style. Adding that If you have a thinner penis, choose positions that make for a tighter squeeze. This, according to experts can be any sex position that allow your partner keeps her legs tight together. It can be missionary, face-down, and on-top positions.
You also need to focus on erotic foreplay. You must use your hands, and mouth fully during the intercourse to increase the chances of orgasm.
If you’re somewhere in the middle, not too big and not too small (a lot of penises fall into this spectrum). In terms of sex positions, anything goes. Ensure you mix things up. Engage deeply in sensation foreplay and fine tune the positions that you and your partner enjoy most.
Source: Dare Agbeluyi, Chief Publisher.
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